Do you suffer from any of these difficulties?
Relationship difficulties, divorce and separation, sexual difficulties, domestic violence, anxiety, depression, loss and bereavement, addiction, life transitions, pregnancy and birth, child-related issues, stress, cross-cultural issues, low self-esteem, low confidence, lack of spiritual connection, irrational thoughts, destructive behaviour or boarding school syndrome?
Then I may be able to help you by listening, understanding, allowing space for reflection, in a safe and confidential environment.
Couple therapy and family counselling
If you have any relationship difficulties, you might benefit from having someone to talk to. Relationships are what I specialise in. I work with individuals with a relationship focus, couples, families, and individuals who live or work in a group.
A ‘relationship’ is classified as connection between people. This can be between romantic partners, parent and child, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, team mates, boss and employee. If any of these relationships are difficult, you may like to explore the reasons why you aren’t getting on well and resolve them.
Relationship therapy is slightly different from general counselling in that the approach is more systemic than any other approaches and theories.
What this means is that I look at the family system as a whole, so I would ask you about your family of origin and what your experiences were like as a child and growing up. Often we learn as children to imitate the adults in our lives and when we become adults, we automatically do what we had observed. We may draw a genogram (family tree) together to identify any themes and patterns of relating.
|Counselling and psychotherapy provide an opportunity to talk to someone who is impartial, in a safe and confidential environment. You may find that it is a relief to be able to share your most personal, intimate thoughts and feelings, when you don’t want to burden your friends and family.
It is also an opportunity to gain insight and self-awareness, in order to lead a more fulfilling life. Many people find it a positive, life-changing experience. I believe it is the best way of finding our authentic self and therefore the best GIFT we can give ourselves.
Before the first session: You would contact me by email or phone. We can have an informal chat to arrange a day and a time that suits us both. You may want to ask a few questions.
The first meeting is an assessment session. It is also an opportunity for us to see if we want to work together. If we both agree, we can continue with subsequent sessions. The sessions last 50 minutes and are usually weekly, on the same day and time each week. We will discuss how many sessions you would like or need.
During the session, I will ask you about your feelings, emotions, thoughts and behaviour patterns. I may delve deeper into your childhood to ascertain where a pattern was established. I may set you some work to take home with you, so that you can try them in between sessions.
Towards the end of counselling, we will work on an ending. I always like to encourage clients to mark the ending in a manner that suits them. This is an important part of the therapeutic work
I work with the Hawkins and Shohet’s seven-eyed model of supervision, which appreciatively unpicks and explores the relationships between clients, supervisee, supervisor and the field in which we all operate. I use metaphors, imagery, body and other creative ways to work with you.
I believe supervision is a collaborative endeavour with an emphasis on self-care, support, authenticity and relationships. I will encourage, challenge and support you to bring your authentic self in the work as a counsellor / therapist in an appreciative manner. I will provide a safe, confidential space to reflect on your work, our relationship, any difficulties and to facilitate those difficult conversations.
I offer face to face or Skype sessions on a monthly or fortnightly basis and they can be 60-minute or 90-minute sessions depending on your need.